Perturbation - the mental disquiet, disturbance, and/or agitation
Emotions are complex, like people, they build the very foundations of our existence and our identity and personality. Without foreseeing them, emotions take hold strapping us into the straight jacket of psychological being. There’s a disjointed idea that emotions are personal but how is it that others are able to twist and manipulate them so? (I take the words ‘twist’ and ‘manipulate’ to hold both positive and negative connotations) why are our personal emotions so powerfully controlled by the actions of those around us? Why can’t they remain loyal and selfish; driven and granted only by ourselves?
One of the most recycled interrogatives of contemporary society is the phrase ‘how are you?’ I am aware of my own inability to omit this three worded phrase from any interaction, as I find it polite and courteous to excavate this declarative pair to this burning question. Is it socially acceptable to answer this question with utter truth or should we grapple with our inner most extrovert to tell everyone everything and just reply with an unthoughtful, ‘good’ or ‘fine’, and therefore detaching publicity of our emotions? This, i feel, is simply down to your emotive situations and the social proximity that you consider the other to be in regards to you. This is not to say don’t share ones emotions with those you hold dearly but to ensure those personal emotions stay as personal as possible regulate.
I am, with this discretion, usually honest with my answer to this unavoidable question, especially to those I hold in high regard. I would expect that others are not so forthcoming when in discussion with me about this question but, as I will always believe, your thoughts, feelings, time, emotions are all personal and only if you are willing to share will I probe further. No one close to me should feel that I am in desperation with need and want to pry into their personal affairs although I can often seem this way. Emotions are personal so be selfish about them.
Although there are many others in existence that we other hold great respect for; it is those people who can often influence and abolish our emotions. Without being too simplistic, have you ever had an exciting day filled with happiness and fulfilment just for one persons actions to stain it with sadness, worry, anger? These situations are, with regret, a feature of contemporary existence and society. I feel some days cannot simply pass by without being tainted by worry for something or someone; that my true feeling of happiness and pleasure has to torn up and disposed of by a bulldozer of negativity. Other days, it’s the people about you that allow you to be lifted from the grave of despair to the sky’s of excitement. People can really make a difference on those days of isolation and loneliness; make you feel the positive array of emotions that are capable.
People influence these, misleadingly personal, emotions. This is something that will never remove itself from humanity. How much you let others toy with the feelings you hold to personal is within your realm to control. Be honest when needing that extra bolt of emotive strength but hold all personal and secretive when needed. I often experience an array of emotions, both positive and negative, each and every moment of the day and many of these are controlled, influenced or changed by other people.
So the next time someone asks you, ‘how are you?’ Pause for thought to see the honesty of your emotive state at the time present but also to decided whether you are willing to depersonalise your emotions. Emotions are personal to whoever wishes them to be.